Invest in yourself…

No one can do this better than you. Quite honestly, no one will invest in you better than you can do it yourself. This applies to every single aspect one can think of; but what it all boils down to at the end of the day is that SelfLove is important and necessary.

You owe it to yourself to invest in yourself. Health wise, you need to get checked for both your physical and mental health. When you know how your body is going and what you need to do to ensure that it’s well taken care of, your body and mind being at their best will in turn make you feel better. Don’t forget also that food is medicine, so try your best to eat right.

Financially, if you don’t learn how to save, protect your projects and invest in them, even if it’s the bare minimum, or the least you can afford to, no one else will go into your affairs and straighten them out for you. With your affairs in order, you will be able to create more opportunities for yourself and those will lead to balance, stability and contentment in your life; I can guarantee with that you will feel good about yourself.

In your personal life, now I feel this is the most important angle/aspect/category, and for so many reasons. Furthermore, all the others intertwine with that one aspect. It also goes further into investing in your wellbeing, your psyche; fully loving yourself to the point where you do not need to rely on anyone for your happiness. Invest in yourself even when others around you are investing in you. Family is supposed to be loving on us (sometimes things happen), but that definitely does not mean that we neglect ourselves. Learn to say “no” at times, put yourself first.

It’s ok to be selfish and take “me time”, go to a spa, check into rehab (it’s not always for drugs and alcoholism), go to a wellness center, go to the Sickle Cell clinic/the ER in my case; but take care of your body, your temple, your machine; because when things go wrong, when you’re down, even if friends and family show emotions and empathize, the only one directly affected is the one and only YOU… Invest in yourself!!!

Smile, it could be worse!!!

Pushing through…

As a SickleCeller, everything in your everyday life is a struggle, and just like everything else in life, the way you respond/react to these struggles is what is important.

I dislike making plans because it seems to me that when I make these plans, I can never see them through. Some have opined and suggested it was a psychological issue; others of course have tried to make it make sense with the aide of their own logic. The fact remains that as a SickleCeller, I avoid making plans with others so that I don’t end up pooping on their partying.

Last weekend I was surprised with an anniversary trip. I was beyond excited but at the same time, just like with every other instance, in the back of my head I was panicking a bit. I didn’t want to end up in a pain crisis during the trip and ruin the surprise and all the effort that went into planning this trip. I kept it moving, I pushed through it all.

Living with SCD requires pushing through on a daily basis, with everything, at every turn; and I think I’ve mastered that art (or at least I’d like to think I have).

The idea of spontaneity can’t really exist because there has to be some planning done, because as SickleCeller, you need to have certain things with you at all times, you can’t just pick up and drive north to discover a new town, a new state, a new country. Ironically, you can’t plan too much because you have no idea how you’re going to feel by the time it’s time to go on the trip. (I’m not using “you” here to generalize the issue. I am not speaking on behalf of all SickleCellers).

Whether you follow a well planned itinerary/agenda/schedule or you go on a whim and choose to be spontaneous, the one thing you must be able to do as a SickleCeller is to keep pushing. If you want to say: “eff it, I’m going to girls night out even if this right hip is kinda pulling” and opt for a pair of flats instead of heels; or you plan a romantic trip with Bae a couple of months in advance and have to locate the nearest hospital, one thing for sure, you will have to keep pushing through to survive, for lack of a better word, both the night and the trip.

Pushing through is essential in the daily life of a SickleCeller, but we were chosen, so we can do it, we can push through…

Smile, it could be worse!!!